Everyone appreciates being appreciated, it’s only natural. And offering appreciation is easy and it needn’t cost a penny. Valuing someone and their contribution is a higher level of appreciation. It also doesn’t necessarily require a financial outlay – but it does require more thoughtfulness. By that I mean you need to not only know what you value but what they value.
Move from simple appreciation to the deeper act of valuing by invoking the Platinum Rule, “do (give) unto others what they would like to be done unto (be given).” Often appreciation comes under the guise of the Golden Rule and it bears the likeness of what we value and how we like to be valued. Let’s be honest, that is just easier! And that is why valuing someone may takes more time and thoughtfulness. What motivates this person? What do they need? Want? What can you do to tap into that motivation?
Perhaps it’s time for an example. You have a staff member who has shown good judgment in a difficult situation and you really appreciate it. In a staff meeting you state your appreciation of this person and feel good about praising in public. What perhaps you didn’t know is that this person really wants to be included more than applauded. What would really get them jazzed would be for their good judgment to be honored by asking for more of it – perhaps including them in a decision-making process, a special work group or task.
Moving from being a good manager to being a great manager can hinge on these seemingly small differentiations. It requires that you get to know your people, see them as individuals with strengths and preferences. Listen to them, get to know them, take note of conversations where they show excitement and energy and those where they discuss challenges and obstacles. The next time you are amazed by their contribution and want to show that you not only appreciate it but value it – put that knowledge to use! Gift them a long lunch, tickets to a comedy show, a gift certificate for a massage, or perhaps an invitation to participate in a leadership circle – it just depends on what you know about what they value.
Give it some thought. Who in your life is doing a great job and probably needs some affirmation of their value? What do you know about them and what they value? Start valuing the good work you see in your life, at work and elsewhere, and see how it will motivate them to even greater heights. Being truly seen, known and valued for who you are and your contributions is a tremendously powerful gift. Be generous!
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